Now there’s no definitive way to discover what you should do with your life. No formula or code that will get you there faster. Though that can be a daunting prospect, it can sometimes take the heat off. There is no right job, no right career path or right thing for you to be doing. You will get to where you need to be, and it will be in your own time! Having said this, there are a few things that you can do to help yourself along the way. Things that we have learnt along the way on our journeys.
Start with the basics
Here, the term basics is used loosely. The basics vary in degree of difficulty from person to person and from time to time. Sometimes you might find routines and day to day activities easy and almost mindless, whilst other days it might be overwhelming to brush your teeth.. we have all been there! There is no shame in struggling. The key is to find something that works for you. We use schedules and visual lists to plan our day to day activities. This takes the stress and brainpower out of the basics. Your basics could include; enough sleep, good hygiene, a little bit of exercise, safe and comforting friendships and food. The level of each of these that we need varies from time to time, so be patient with yourself. Select routines that fit into your lifestyle!
What are you resisting?
What are the things that peak your interest? The things that although you don’t understand why they intrigue or interest you, they do. Now cross off the ones that you don’t want to do. Never do something just because its what other people expect from you! Only do the things that you feel drawn to. Obviously make sure that they aren’t illegal or unsafe. Then explore them. Get curious! Go and try out that pottery class you’ve been looking at. Start writing that gaming code that you’ve been planning in your head. Bake. Read. Create. Do all of the things that you’ve told yourself are silly because you never know where it will take you!
Take a chance
Sometimes you have to take a risk. Sometimes you have to work so hard just to get by. You have to work a job, volunteer and explore your interests and this can be exhausting. Sometimes you have to turn down a night out or spend a little less on your weekly food shop, but it’s worth it in the long run. In a society where instant gratification is the norm, push yourself out of your box and graft!
Don’t give up!
The likelihood is, you’re not going to be outstanding straight away! So keep going. Keep crafting your skill until it becomes natural. Think about all of the greats from history, they didn’t just pick up a paintbrush and become world-renowned artists or suddenly jump to the top of the charts. If something came that easy, we wouldn’t actually feel fulfilled. So if you are working on your craft right now and you’re hitting roadblocks or feel that what you’re producing is rubbish that’s good. Through the years, as you get better, the sense of achievement and pride will be unparalleled.
Talk to people
and surround yourself with people that inspire you. Build your friends up and spark conversations. Speak to people who are interested in the things you are and ask for their advice. Put yourself out there even when you are afraid. The whole fake it til you make it advise springs to mind here!